Dating Tips, Relationship Advice and Sexuality!: Sex During Pregnancy

Key Tips To Successful Dating
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What is a successful date? Does it mean it leads to a relationship and romance? Well that would be cool. But it doesn't have to mean that. A successful date can be one where you got on very well, had a great time and things ended on excellent terms. Not every date we go on will end this way, but they should if we plan our dating a little more carefully.

My main concern is that we often just accept dates from the next person who shows and interest and we hope that we get on okay. The problem here is that we are being passive in our dating game. We are receivers without a game plan. Our dating is bound to be far more successful if we are the ones going out and choosing who we would like to date from a selection of those who are compatible.

To do this successfully you first have to have an idea of who you are most likely to get on with and be truthful when you do it. If you insist on dating everyone, 50% of the people you meet won't be compatible straight away. In which case you will have half of all your dates as a complete waste of time. Stop doing that and start analyzing what kind of people you get on with. Okay I could say the following@

I like people who are aged 29 to 36, single and never previously married, no children but would like a child sometime. Should be Christian to an extent, well educated, reasonably tall and have long blonde hair. They should be receptive to the idea of marriage like winter sports and live within 100 miles of my home.

Okay if I do this then I can be accused of many things here but this is just an example. The effect though is to set some criteria by which I can date and from which I am likely to see some successful dating. If I don't make a dating profile then its open to all comers. That's okay. Maybe you simply don't care and want to meet anyone you can., In which case spread your net widely. The problem is though that you are not going to please everyone and once again 50% of your dates will be a complete waste of time.

Recognize that none of us are compatible with everyone. Reclines your minimum dating requirements and then ensure you match the requirements you set. There is absolutely no point in setting the following if you don't match yourself.

I am looking to meet a guy who is 6 feet 2" or taller, must be athletic and a professional sportsman with an income of over $200k a year. They must be extremely attractive, own their own house and sports car and be able to surf.

If you are five feet 1", out of shape and maybe overweight with no career and a low income and cannot swim then what you have done is just describe your ideal fantasy figure not your probable dating criteria. I am not for one second saying you won't be attractive to the character you have described but to date successfully you must establish ground where you are most likely to be compatible and will easily match.

The next thing to consider when looking at successful dating are your expectations. If you are expecting instant love at first sight followed by a perfect romance and children then that's great. The issue here is that it may not happen that way. I wish it would but it doesn't. So being realistic and expecting little is often the best way to date. If you do then one of these days you are in for a nice surprise. Greet every date with optimism but don't go over the top. If you make a new friend then you have done well. Don't expect Cupid at every turn. It will happen but maybe not just yet.

Successful dates are simple dates. They are casual and fun. Believe me when I say that desperation comes across as though you have a placard over your head announcing it. Never ever be desperate to date. If you are then this is the time to take a breather ironically. How many times has someone said that you meet a person when you least expect it. Its true, that's why. So successful dating is when its part of your monthly routine but not the be all and end all.

Successful dates are when you are at your most casual and most upbeat and most relaxed. Successful dates happen when you are focused but in a good mood. Put the rest of your house on order and your dates will naturally take on a new glow because you will be far more positive and organized.

To summarize:

--Successful dating involves setting realistic match criteria

--Successful dating involves establishing dating boundaries

--Successful dating means being prepared and upbeat

--Successful dating means keeping things simple and fun

--Successful dating means dating the right people for you

--Successful dating means being realistic about your expectations

--Successful dating means being patient

How to Flirt: Flirting Tips Help You Show Interest
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You are at a party and out of nowhere someone is standing close to you. Like a genie, they keep turning up, close by, catching your gaze. You go and chat and they stand in the same position as you, playing with their hair, laughing with you and holding your gaze. This person likes you and is flirting. How do you know? Because without realizing it, you are an expert in flirting and body language.

What would dating be without flirting. Flirting is fabulous, flirting is fun, flirting is giving out signals that we may be interested in someone, or we may be pretending. But within reason, flirting is part and parcel of our daily lives. Flirting can be harmful when it threatens fidelity but it can also be sexy and bring people closer together. Some people are good at flirting and some people hopeless.

Are you a flirt? If you are you know it and are secretly proud of the fact. It is sexy when you flirt and people like it. Flirting means giving people attention, it means, smiling, touching, whispering. In the right circumstances it is a powerful tool especially against the unwary. In the wrong circumstances it will get you fired. There is a gulf between flirting and unwanted sexual advances so beware.

It is useful to look at some of the key indicators of flirting and they can prove extremely useful when working out if the person across the table from you is interested. The one to keep your eye on the most is "mirroring". Mirroring is when someone copies your body movements whilst retaining eye contact. Its is one of the biggest giveaways there is.

Eye Contact

--Pupils are dilated and eye contact is maintained
--Eye contact combined with an arched eye brow
--Any form of winking
--Rapid eye movement and blinking

Eye contact where the gaze is held longer than usual. Men normally look away.
Hair and Mouth

--Playing with hair in a stroking or toying motion
--Eye contact whilst playing with hair
--Touching your hair at any time
--Lots of smiling, open mouthed and teeth flashing
--Lip licking
--Puckering lips in a simulated kiss form
--Any form of touch of the lips or teeth with tongue

Body Movement

--The thrusting of chest or breasts outwards whilst holding your gaze
--The copying of your posture - mirroring
--Holding your gaze whilst moving to music
--Using a posture with legs crossed towards you
--Leaning in towards you whilst holding your gaze
--Open legged posture facing you
--The display of flesh of arm or thigh
--Touching

--They will want to touch you and will reach out to do so with some excuse
--They will offer to place food in your mouth as if feeding you
--They will play with their hands and then with yours

The Way they Speak

--Their tone and speed of conversation mirrors your own
--Lots of laughter and questioning tones
--In a group, you are singled out by this person for attention even in general conversation and questions. This happened to me in New York and I was taken aback how obvious it was.

The main thing to remember with flirting is that it is fun and so much more so when you are receptive to it and understand when it is happening to you. The best flirtatious moments will always take you by surprise.

Customized Girl

Male Masturbation Techniques
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THE "VAGINA"
Lie down on your side and hold onto your penis with the "Backhand" grip. Roll over further and brace your hand against the bed, and thrust your penis in and out of your hand. This closely mimics the movements of intercourse. It's a very different feeling to masturbate by moving your pelvis rather than your hand. It's also fun to put your other hand down and feel your scrotum moving back and forth as you pump in and out of the "vagina."

VARIATION: "VAGINA" FINISH
If you like the "Vagina" technique but don't have a lot of stamina or energy, masturbate normally until you can feel that if you don't stop, you'll ejaculate. At that point, wrap both hands around your penis and start pumping "Vagina"-style like there's no tomorrow. This will be a very rewarding experience.

VARIATION: TWO-HANDED "VAGINA"
Kneel on the floor, and lay down a towel. Lube up well, and lock together the fingers of both hands, palms up. Place your erection in your hands, and wrap your hands around your penis. Then put your hands (and your erection) on the floor, and pump your pelvis front to back, without moving your hands. Throw your head back, close your eyes, and imagine having sex with the girl of your dreams. You may have to lube up a few times, but it produces a very nice orgasm.

THE PILLOW PUMPER
Put two pillows (preferably fluffy ones) down on the bed, one top of the other, and then slip your penis between them. Prop yourself up on your arms and begin to pump. This is a free-handed technique.

VARIATION: PILLOW ON DESK
Simply put the pillows on a desk (most desks have the right height for this) or a table, place your hands on the pillows, and insert your penis and thrust in and out. This is something like having "doggy-style" sex.

BANANA MAN
This is an easy one. Simply peel a banana (you can eat it later), slip the peel over your penis, and masturbate with it. The banana slime is a great lubricant. You can warm up the peel in the microwave for added sensations. Also, you might have better results if you peel the banana by making just one cut in the peel and removing the fruit through the single cut; you can then cut off the end of the banana peel and insert your penis through that end.

THE SHOWER MASSAGE
If you masturbate in the shower and have a shower massager, lie on your back in the tub, and turn the nozzle to a really rough setting — something that would give your back a decent massage. Put the water on that really sensitive spot on the underside of your penis. After a couple of seconds to a couple of minutes, you'll have a great orgasm.

THE LUBE-FILLED CONDOM
Take a condom with a reservoir tip, and fill the tip of the condom with a water-based lube. (The more lube you use, the better it feels.) Once the condom is nice and snug at the base of your penis, squeeze the tip, so the lube gets squished around. Then start to masturbate.

VARIATION: THE SLIDING CONDOM
Take a condom and put quite a lot of lotion in the tip. Then roll the condom down on your penis, and squish the lotion between your penis and the condom. Now slowly slide the condom almost off and back on again. When you get going, pull the end of the condom with one hand and then slide it back on with the other. Once you get the technique down, it will feel like your penis is a foot long as you slide the condom up and down. Then, when you approach orgasm, squeeze hard, hold your hands still, and thrust with your hips like with the "Vagina" method for a long-lasting orgasm that will milk you dry.

THE LITTLE BOXERS
Put on some old boxer shorts that are too small, and pull your penis and scrotum out of the fly. Then pull the shorts up so they are tight, and fold the tops down, so you have a little bikini-type thing with your penis sticking out the front. This puts pressure on your penis that feels good, and masturbating like this provides a different sensation.

MATTRESS SANDWICH
This one is rather odd but cool. First get an erection, and then take a pillow and crawl between the box-spring and mattress of a twin-size bed. (Full, king, and queen mattresses are too heavy.) Lie on your back, position the pillow between you and the mattress, and thrust your hips against the pillow. The weight of the mattress is a new and interesting sensation. Beware — If someone walks in on you, you'll have a tough time talking your way out of this one!

VARIATION: WITH A CONDOM
If you use a condom while using this technique, the sensation is better and the orgasm lasts a bit longer.

LATEX GLOVES
Try masturbating with latex gloves (the kind dentists and doctors use). You can buy them at the drug store. For a variation, put on yellow rubber household gloves, and over them slip on latex gloves.

THE SILK ORGASM
Find a very soft piece of clothing; silk is the best (the best you can use is a silk slip), but you can also use velvet or a pair of polyamide shorts, etc. Get an erection and lie down, and place the cloth over your penis. Then, with both hands, start rubbing the fabric to the left and the right, with the silk touching the sensitive underside of your penis. But don't rub too fast. Your penis will get very sensitive, and you'll have a great orgasm. You can enhance the feeling by draping some of the fabric over your scrotum so it gets stimulated, too.

THE CONDOM-TWIST
Put some lube inside a condom, put it on your penis, and stroke for a while. Then start twisting the condom around your penis.

THE KIWI DELIGHT
All you need for this technique is one kiwi fruit. Cut it in half and eat most of the inside, but leave about 4 millimeters (about a quarter inch) of fruit on the inside of the skin. Then cut off the top and bottom of each half (depending on your size), use it to line a ring that you make with your index finger and thumb, and masturbate.

SGT. PEPPER
Roasted red sweet peppers out of a jar have the consistency of a vagina, or the inside of a mouth without the teeth. Insert your penis into one of these peppers while holding the pepper in your hand. Warning, do not use hot peppers for this technique!

PRIME RIBS
Get one of those "ribbed" condoms, and turn it inside out so when you put it on, the ribs will rub against your penis. Lube the condom's inside (previously the outside) with K-Y Jelly or another water-based lube, and simply masturbate by moving the condom. If it's been a while, go easy — this will make you reach orgasm quickly, because the ribs stimulate every inch of your penis. Using a condom this way with a vagina simulator will make it feel even more real.

THE KLEENEX "CONDOM"
You can make a very effective "condom" of sorts for masturbation (not for intercourse!) using Kleenex tissues (preferably the lotioned kind). Start with 5 tissues (you can adjust the number depending on your penis size), fold 3 of the tissues in half along the crease that's usually there, and then wrap them around the base of your penis. Drape the other two tissues over the top opening so you can hold onto the edges with your hand. Then move up and down, and you've got yourself an easy, pleasurable ejaculation cleanup that can be flushed away with ease. You may want to make sure the whole thing is totally soaked through before flushing; otherwise it may plug up the toilet.

For the 'Uncircumsized':

FORESKIN RUBBIN'
Rub the end of your foreskin at the bottom with your index finger in circles. It makes your session last longer and brings more pleasure than the "Fist". Usually this technique will make you ejaculate a bit more semen than normal.

FORESKIN TEASER
Sit down and get an erection. Fully retract your foreskin to reveal the glans. If you're right-handed, use 2, 3, or 4 right-hand fingers to move the skin on the base of the penis up and down, as if you were masturbating in the normal way — but *do not* touch the glans (penis head) or move the skin over the glans. Keep the foreskin retracted at all times. You will notice it is very difficult to get an orgasm this way, since there is no glans stimulation. It's meant to be like this; don't worry. You can use your left hand to stimulate other parts of your body, like your nipples, if that excites you more. After 5-10 minutes, you will get close to orgasm. Do not start moving the foreskin over the glans; keep moving the skin on the base only. When you reach the "point of no return," slow down. Keep moving very slowly during this moment. If you do this right, you can "surf" on this wave for 5-10 seconds — a mind-blowing feeling! Afterwards, ejaculation follows as usual. Roll your foreskin back over the glans and clean up.

THE FORESKIN & SHOWER HEAD
This is for guys who have an adjustable shower head that can put all the water into one large jet: First, adjust the shower head so all the water is in one large jet. Now, squat below, pinch your foreskin between thumb and forefinger, and stretch it out as far as is comfortable so the shower jet is falling onto it. This can produce a fantastic orgasm, but you may have to wait awhile before anything happens. By the way, this can work even if you don't have an erection.

FORESKIN PUSH
This can only be done if you can keep your foreskin fully unretracted while your penis is erect. For best results, your penis should be as hard as possible. Place all your fingers of one hand on top of your foreskin, and "push" down the foreskin, retracting it. Start slowly, as for most guys, this is an unusual feeling. Build up speed as you feel more comfortable with it. You won't be able to go as fast if you were masturbating with the "Fist" technique, but it's a good one if you want to try something slow. Depending on your erection rigidity and the curvature of your penis, you may have to hold the penis at the base. If you use this technique to orgasm, you will notice a different intense feeling, and the semen will shoot directly into the palm of your hand. This is also a good technique to get a quick erection.

FORESKIN VIBRATIONS
Get an erection, peel down the skin, and stretch the index finger and thumb of your right hand (or left if you're left-handed), trying to get them as far away from each other as you can. You have a curve between these two fingers. Put it directly under the ridge at the top of the glans (penis head), and wrap your thumb and index around the glans. You can then move your hand in a fashion that doesn't go over the ridge but doesn't go below, either — always touching, move your hand up and down very fast, creating a type of vibrating action. This is very effective — if done properly, it can create an orgasm faster than many other techniques.

WATER SPRAY
Use a thumb and a finger to hold open the foreskin, creating a "pocket." Apply a water jet (from a handheld shower nozzle, etc.) into this pocket. You can hold off orgasm by controlling the water pressure. For best results, make the water a bit warmer than you'd normally have for a shower. After you ejaculate, the water flow helps clean up the penis head, too.

THE TWIST
Making sure that your foreskin is covering your glans (penis head), place your thumb and forefinger on opposite sides of the glans. Moving in short, quick motions, move the two fingers up and down while rotating at the same time.

JUST THE FORESKIN, MA'AM
Pull the foreskin all the way back so it's tight on the shaft. Then lubricate it and just rub up and down, stretching and pulling it at the same time as rubbing. Just concentrate on the foreskin — the glans is too sensitive unless it's well lubricated. The foreskin sensation is very "sharp" — almost painful — and produces a big orgasm. If you don't stop, the sensation is strong enough to maintain the erection.

THE FORESKIN WALK
Pull back your foreskin and make the "peace sign" with your hand (index and middle fingers apart). Then place your hand over your penis head, with your stretched fingers pointing down the shaft. Bring your fingers together to lightly grip the shaft, and start doing a "finger walking" action, twisting the foreskin back and forth in small movements.

HAVE A CRYSTAL BALL
Here's something for guys with longer foreskins. Pull the foreskin past the head, clasp it in between your index and middle fingers (at the base, where the fingers meet the palm), and while you're holding your shaft with the other hand, rub your foreskin over the penis head in a circular fashion — almost like you're rubbing a crystal ball. When you're ready to ejaculate, though, let the semen come out naturally.

TAUT NYLON
Pull back your foreskin to expose the glans (head). Then stretch the leg of a pair of pantyhose, or a nylon stocking, between your hands so you have a flat band of nylon. Keeping it taut, rub it up and down the edge of your glans or across the frenulum (the extra-sensitive area underneath). It can be so intense it's like torture.

FILL YOUR FORESKIN
Sit in a tub full of warm water, and fill an ear syringe or some other bulbous apparatus (such as a turkey baster) with warm bath water. With your foreskin over your glans, lightly pinch it over the opening to the syringe tube, and squeeze the bulb to fill the foreskin; then release in order to suck the water back into the syringe. Repeat doing this until orgasm. You can vary the timing of the squeezing from slow to fast, as if you were humping. The sensation is much like vibration, and the warm water is the kicker — plus, it is a no-mess cleanup, because the semen gets sucked into the syringe with the water. It's a very intense feeling. Another tip: Keep the flow rhythm going throughout the ejaculation, as it intensifies the already skyrocketing orgasm. The orgasmic sensations from this technique can be very intense; in fact, be careful, as they can even be slightly painful.

BOY-GIRL MUTUAL SATISFACTION
Lie on top of your partner with your penis already erect. Either of you can take hold of your penis, but it seems more erotic if it's the woman. With her legs spread beneath you and her natural lubrication present, have her masturbate you, making sure your penis head rubs against her clitoris. This technique gives a good way to orgasm for both partners, as both the sensation and the idea are highly arousing. However, you do need to prop yourself up to give the woman enough room to successfully rub you. NOTE: While unlikely, it is possible to get a girl pregnant using this technique. Be careful where your penis goes — especially if you "ooze" a lot before ejaculation — and ejaculate well away from her genitals.

NON-MUTUAL
Both partners masturbate themselves at the same time in each other's presence. It doesn't really matter who orgasms when.

ONE-WAY MUTUAL
One person masturbates the other, who just lies back and enjoys it. They can then switch duties. A downside to this is if they're doing it to orgasm, one person must orgasm first and therefore won't be as interested in helping the second person to orgasm.

STANDARD MUTUAL
Both partners lie on their backs or slightly facing each other, and they masturbate each other simultaneously. If both are right-handed (or left-handed), one will either have to use a "Backhand" grip — which can be awkward — or use the other hand (which can be awkward, too). If there's orgasm, ideally both achieve it together; the timing required to do this can be difficult to master.

TOP/BOTTOM MUTUAL
One person gets over the other, and they masturbate each other face to face. This is more intense than Standard Mutual, because it more closely simulates intercourse-style contact (which may or may not be desirable).

TOP/BOTTOM "VAGINA"
If the "top" person is male, he can ask the bottom person to hold their hand still while he thrusts into it. This simulates intercourse-style sex even closer. Note: In any of these "Top/Bottom" positions, if the top person wants to go all the way to ejaculation, he should get the permission of the bottom person — for obvious reasons!

69 MUTUAL
In a variation on the classic "69" sex position, the two partners face in opposite directions and masturbate each other. Try this in imaginative combinations with the "Vagina" principle above.

How to Give Her Amazing Oral Sex
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The sensations vary depending on the angle at which you approach the clitoris. Going in from the side gives lots of scope to stimulate the whole of the clitoris rather than focussing on the tip, which may be good if she's sensitive.

Your chin will also rub against her mons in this position, which may add more pleasure. She may like lying on her back while you lie between her legs as this gives easy access to the clit and vagina. If she sits on your face, you can get your tongue deeper inside her – but don't ignore that clit. And you can even approach from behind, reaching her vagina from an entirely different angle while your fingers work their magic. Which leads nicely to…

Take a different approach

…use your hands

Just because it's called oral sex, it doesn't mean you can only use your tongue and lips. Add a finger or too so that you can stimulate her G-spot while your tongue is on her clit.

…and all your oral prowess

Using the soft underside of your lips to rub her clit gives a softer sensation. Try gently sucking the clit between your lips, 'French kissing' her vagina, softly blowing across her clitoris (but never up the vagina as this can be dangerous) or softly pulling her pubic hair to part her lips and give a pain/pleasure thrill if she's into that kind of thing.

…shave

Stubble hurts. Enough said!

DON'T…

Forget the 'I'll give you one if you give me one' thing. It's transparent and the antithesis of sensual loving. Do it because you enjoy it and because she enjoys it - not because you want her to give you a blow-job.

…see it as a trade

…give it grudgingly

If you look like you hate it, she'll be able to tell. It can be an acquired taste but so are many things in life, including lager! If she's not clean enough, start by having a sexy shower together. If your tongue gets tired, to be blunt, deal with it. Blow jobs take effort too and you probably wouldn't want her to stop giving them.

…copy the porn movies

Far too many porn movies show the stock 'man putting his head between a woman's legs and shaking his head from side to side.' It looks stupid and gives very little sensation. Just don't, OK.

Pregnancy Sex Questions
By Robin Elise Weiss, LCCE, About.com

Sex during pregnancy can be a touchy subject between couples. The rule is to follow your desires and really open the lines of communication. Over the course of the years, I've been asked many personal questions about sex during pregnancy, here are some of the questions with answers.

Q. Now that I'm pregnant can I still have sex, and if so, for how long into my pregnancy?

A. Sex in pregnancy is wonderful! You can continue to have sex as far into pregnancy, right up until birth, as you and your partner are comfortable. This includes orgasms. There are a few reasons why you shouldn't have sex during certain periods during pregnancy. These include:

--Bleeding
--Preterm Labor
--Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) (you or your partner)

Be sure to talk to your practitioner about specifics for you. When your practitioner says, "No sex." Find out what they mean, do them mean no orgasms? Do they mean no intercourse? If so, for how long? For example, if a woman has a slight bit of bleeding in the first trimester, it's common to be told to avoid intercourse and orgasm for the period of one week from the last episode of bleeding.

Q. Now that my belly is growing we're having a harder time having sex. Any suggestions?

A. Be creative! While many people tend to prefer the missionary position for sex during pregnancy, it becomes a very difficult maneuver to perform as the abdomen gets larger. Try some of these positions:

Woman on top. This allows you to control the depth of penetration, and the majority of the movement. You can go as fast or as slow as you'd like, while controlling the depth of the penis. This position works really well throughout pregnancy and at the very end of pregnancy.

Spooning. This position gets it's name from the way spoons fit together in the silver ware drawer. Usually it's best if the man is behind allowing his penis to go between your thighs and enter you from behind. This creates no pressure on the abdomen, and allows for a shallow penetration. Many women find this a very relaxing position for sex during pregnancy, and it can be used throughout.

Hands & Knees. This is a very good position for pregnant women again because of the lack of direct pressure on the abdomen, although as your get larger your belly may actually rest on the bed. Some women find this difficult at the very end of pregnancy, depending on how high they are able to hold their belly off the bed and still allow for penetration.

Side lying. This can be kind of tricky, but it can be done! Lay on your side with your partner facing you, try pulling one leg up to allow room for your partner. This may get tiring after awhile, and may not be easy for the last part of pregnancy.

All of the above mentioned positions also allow for manual stimulation of the clitoris either by yourself or your partner. This can greatly increase your chances of becoming multi-orgasmic, not to mention it's a lot of fun. They also prevent the mother from laying on her back, which is not recommended after the fourth month of pregnancy (16 weeks gestation).

When you're trying to think of a good position, try it, if it doesn't work stop. Creativity will be a lot of fun during pregnancy, and it will probably carry over into your postpartum sex life as well, when creativity becomes important in a different way.

Q. One word, orgasms.

A. Many answers to that one! Orgasms can be much different during pregnancy. Some woman will finally become orgasmic during pregnancy due to the increased fluids in the area making the clitoris and vagina more sensitive. Other women will become multi-orgasmic for the first time.

In general, orgasms are very good for you and baby! When you have an orgasm the baby is unaware of what you are doing, but does experience the euphoric hormone rush that you will experience. There will also be minor contractions of the uterus, as there have always been, but now that the uterus is bigger you can feel them more. This is not preterm labor, unless you have this cramping sensation or contractions for more than one hour.

The big problem with orgasms during pregnancy is that, particularly at the end, you many not get quite the sense of relief that a normal orgasm would provide. I've personally walked away from sex feeling more sexually frustrated than before, despite multiple orgasms. Although, it's still worth it!

Q. Can I masturbate? Will it hurt the baby?

A. Masturbation is a great release of sexual energy. I highly encourage this for women. It's also great to have a session of mutual masturbation if you're not interested in penetration. Masturbation is also a good thing to think of if only one person in the relationship is interested in sex at that particular moment. It allows your to be sexual without having to have sex for whatever reason, and yet your partner (or you) can enjoy a release of sexual tension.

Q. I've heard that oral sex is dangerous. Is that true?

A. Oral sex is not dangerous for you while pregnant, with one exception, don't blow air into the vagina. You'll read this a lot of places, but I personally don't know anyone who blows air during cunnilingus, maybe I'm missing out!

Oral sex can be very pleasurable during pregnancy, particularly if you are fearful or simply do not wish to engage in intercourse. It's a great way to try and express your sexuality without sex. There is an increased discharge during pregnancy, this is not harmful to either of you. If either of you are bothered by this you can simply wash yourself prior to engaging in these activities.

Q. Can I have anal sex while pregnant?

A. That's a tough one. Not many people have studied this, and in general I would say that if you've engaged in this prior to becoming pregnant there should be no difficulties, but listen to your body. If it hurts stop. It may also be more difficult at the end of pregnancy as the baby's head engages into the pelvis. We often forget that the only thing that separates the vagina and the rectum is a piece of skin. This may make anal sex more painful at the end of pregnancy.

Q. Can I use a vibrator while pregnant?

A. Anyone want to do a thesis on this one? Seriously, I've been asked this question a number of times, and there isn't a clear cut answer out there. So I'm going to rely on the end result: orgasms.

Orgasms are safe during pregnancy, with a few minor exceptions. Watch for continual contractions of the uterus, and other than that you should be fine. Of course, it would also be good if you could ask your practitioner about this topic as well. They will have more knowledge of your personal medical history. If they say no get specifics on why not, to ensure that it's not personal bias.

Choosing an Online Dating Service
by Noreen Ruth

If you're new to online dating, just the vast number of sites available for you to choose from can be daunting. To make the process easier the first and probably most important decision to make is to define exactly what you're looking to get out of a dating service. Are you looking for a lifelong relationship, a friend to share common interests, a sexual encounter or a chat buddy?

The top dating services. such as Yahoo! Personals, eHarmony and Match.com focus on one type of relationship. On these sites you know upfront what the other members are looking for when you make contact. If you are not exactly sure about your specific intentions, check out the sites that offer more than one type of relationship within the same site. Be sure you look for one that has the different communities separated so that you don't have to guess what the intentions of the poster may be.

Know Who You Want to Meet
Dating services will bring positive results only when you're able to see a mental picture of the person you would want to meet and find words to describe him or her in details that convey the traits that are most important to you. Consider not only the physical attributes of the person but their personality, lifestyle, hobbies, religious and political preferences. If there is one trait that is a 'must-have', consider searching for a dating service that specializes in bringing together people who share that common interest. The specialty dating services you can visit are as diverse as your imagination -- biker babes, vegans, pet-lovers, pagan, etc.

Site Features Make the Process Easier
Who has time to click through thousands of profiles to find the 'perfect' match? The tools that are offered on a site can make your search faster, more relevant and ultimately more fun. Matchmaking features offer you a way to 'fine-tune' your search so that you're not wading through profiles that are far from the results you're looking for. Some sites run your search on a regular basis automatically and send new prospects that meet your profile to your email. On a general dating site, you may receive several profiles each day. If, however, you opt to use a more 'serious' service (designed for people looking for a marriage partner), you may receive one or two matches a month.

Take Personality Tests As a way to help their clients learn about themselves and their potential partners, personality tests are offered. The more established sites often offer more insightful and detailed tests. The results of these tests, which are free with your membership, help to define compatible members. One thing to consider is whether the results are a good reflection of you, if so it stands to reason that the potential matches on the site will be reflecting their true nature, as well.

Check Out the Communications
Communication is the key to a great relationship. When choosing a dating service, consider what communication opportunities are included. If you're just trying out a service, you will probably be given limited ability to communicate (often limited to flirty icons and preset messages) with prospective dates to determine whether you want to continue at the next level which would require a subscription to the service. Once you subscribe, communication between members is usually with an on-site email or instant messaging. Typically, the more you pay for a service the more options will be available to you.

Entertainment Options If you're not looking for a serious relationship, there's still a place for you on many dating service websites. More and more sites are now offering chat rooms and forums to make friends. Entertainment features may also include quizzes, polls, contests, articles and newsletters.

Using the Service When Out of the Country
Established online dating services have extended their services into other countries around the world. You can connect in 27 different countries on Match.com; Yahoo! Personals has a new Canadian service. If you find yourself in another country, this service is a good way to chat in your native language.

Cost and Payment Options First look for free trials and try out all the features before committing to a service. The cost of using an online dating service is typically between $20 and $25 a month. With the cost pretty standard across the board, the value of your subscription is in the services offered that you will actually use. If you sign up for a service and don't take advantage of the benefits they offer, you're wasting your money. Look for discounts for signing up for several months or for joining with a friend. Some services accept money orders or checks, but most prefer credit or debit card payments.

More Resources
Be sure to explore the Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) section of the service you're considering. Visit the site and explore the options available. Don't stick around too long, if you aren't enjoying the experience. Check out a great dating service review site, http://www.dateshowcase.com - Compare Best Internet Dating Sites.

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